just go
 

I should have gone when I was 17. I am now in my mid fifties and only just getting ready for the big trip. I have gone through the same, divorce, living with some one, looked after elderly parents. Had I have gone and come back when I first had the idea and the freedom to do so I would still have been able to do the things I have done.

I have spent well over 30 years regretting not doing so. Pack your bags, you never know you might meet some one better on your travels. Best of luck and let us know what decidoon you made and how you got on.

GM

But seriously folks,

I do do mean seriously.
There was Lamble who did his "Three Teas Tour" and he was on the Hub and the BMWMOA forum but most of the story was on the ADVriders forum.
His marriage did not survive the tour.

You can do a search on ADVrider for "lamble" to see the story.

Insain, maybe you can have her fly out and meet you periodically for a few days or a week at strategic locations along your route. This might not be practicle for trips longer than 6-8 months.

I am 51 and am having those same feelings about a long trip. At my age it truly is now or never, so I am going next year (Africa 1st choice, South America 2nd). I may regret it if I go, but I know I will regret it if I don't.

If she's not "that type of girl" and YOU ARE "that type of guy", then maybe she ain't really "the one".

I don't know you or your past so I won't attempt to judge you but if you've just lost everything and a woman comes into your life, it's very easy to settle with someone who isn't right for you because it's just better than having **** all...

What i'm saying is.. Maybe you're not looking at the bigger picture. If you want to travel and she doesn't, then there has to be a major compromise by one of you.

If she loves you, she'l wait. If you're thinking shes going to move on as soon as you've been on the road a few weeks then she really isnt "The one" anyway" if you're honest with yourself..


woaaah.. too deep !! I'm off !!!

Yes

IMHO

Wow! I mean really wow, soooo much info, it's only been a couple of days and this tread has gone mad..

When I mean shes not that sort of girl, I mean mid 30s done very well for her self, and worked very hard, didn't want family, until she met me. likes biking but it's not her life, and would rather I enjoy it, and come back with my storys.

Update, I came out with the way I have been feeling this weekend, and..?
It went very, I explained this was always going to part of my life, and something I need, but I also wanted to build a life with her.

So I'm going to try and live life with a balance.

It has been been amazing the response to my questions, it's made me smile and think very hard, and in some strange way helped. Thanks