Compromise
 

It seems as though you are quite willing to compromise with the "trip of your dreams". However, she doesn't seem to want to do the same. I have had relations go south due to my need to travel and be adventurous. When the woman I was with gives me the ultimatum, well it's in my nature to follow my heart. Usually that meant following my dreams. As the saying goes, "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it was meant to be". As with many of the readers of this post, I'm sure we have all faced this same thing at one time or another. It's a tough choice. Not one that should be taken lightly. However, me personally, I would rather regret doing something, than regret not doing it. Best of luck with your dilemma.

I just picked up this thread tonight and it's been going on for six months. Nobody's talked you out of going -- if you're wired for the road, you have to go.

I used to take off all the time in my 20's, and when I met a lady then, she never tried to change that. It's about accepting people for who they are. 30 years later, she's still around, along with our four daughters. I still take off when I can -- if you lived in a henhouse, you would too.

Have a great trip, man. There'll be plenty of time later for building your own henhouse.

Thank you all for your perspectives.

Iv decided to follow my dreams and hit the road. If she is the one and loves me for who I am, then she has to respect my dreams. I dont think im being unreasonable wanting to go on one big trip before settling down.

She always got the chance to come with me if she desires and I have no intention of fooling about while away.

If I dont do this, I will regret it forever and I will always resent her and myself. I have the rest of my life to settle down and do the boring stuff....

I read in a post which really rang home.. " Id rather regret doing something than regret doing nothing"

That makes a lot of sense to me....

Cya all on the road in 2008 !!

Happy travels. May the sun always shine on you and the wind blow on your back.

Peter.

Awesome. I will do a wheelie for you. Not right now though cause I've had a couple of beers.

A quote from a very thought provoking book seems relevant here.

“Would you want me to love you at the cost of my own happiness? ‘Yes’ she answered. Isn’t that delightful? Wouldn’t that be wonderful? She would love me at the cost of her happiness and I would love her at the cost of my happiness, and so you’ve got two unhappy people, but long live love!”

From Awareness by Anthony De Mello, Fount, London, 1997 p. 10

I think you’ve made the right decision and I hope you have a great trip.

This has all been very interesting! I got on this website tonight because I am longing for a motorcycle adventure. I've only done a couple 1 week dual sport trips around Colorado with a few friends. It inspired me and now I want a REAL adventure! I got stuck on this thread for pretty much my whole evening. I am a FEMALE whose boyfriend rides (we are both primarily dirt bike riders) but like your girlfriend, won't venture far from COMFORTS! It's all so ironic, isn't it! Well, I've learned alot for myself from the replies to your original question (whatever that was so very long ago). I've learned that there is no real clear cut answer to lifes dilemas, but the best guide is whatever makes your bloodpressure rise with excitement just thinking about it. Good luck to you.

kmpcolorado,

Wow, here I am reading the thread and the next person to post is just down the street! (I'm in Louisville) Happy travels where ever you decide to go!

cheers

Go
 

Ted,

You only have ONE LIFETIME. So go! :taz:

Fear not.. Im going !!

Im counting the pay cheques till leave date :)

You wanted advice.....
Dump her and go. Skip

Well... after all that !!

Just found out the bitch shagged someone while in Greece 2 months ago when she said she went away to clear her head about "US"

Thankyou missis for making the decision for me !!

Yeeeeeeeeeeeee haaaaaaaaaa ! LIFE is mine again :scooter:

Ted
We've lived through your turmoil on this one over the last few months and we share your pain... :biggrin:

Stephan

blessing in disguise
 

What a "blessing in disguise"! Things happen for a reason.
All the best now, hope to see :eek3: you on the road someday.

norm
cape to cape 2008

This is one of those rare, history making moments when the power of a motorbike is more powerful than the pussy!!