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People being strongly against you spending money on travel
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I know there also a subject '' Other people being strongly against you riding a motorcycle'' and what I read in this section is more about security. It would be helpful if you share some idea you use to persuade your parents, wife, husband, family etc.. About the amount of money you spend travelling
But my probleme is more about to convince my parent (I am 22, I still live with them, they helping me to pay for school, and I think that just before to finish my school is the right time to do such a big trip before having a steady job, serious girls friend or wife , kids etc .. ) It's difficult to explain them I plan to spend around 8000 to 10 000 $ to go down in south america, partly by the fact they have never traveled further than 2 days driving.
My budjet is realistic ?
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just ask THEM a few questions....
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Originally Posted by frankkyboy
Hi
I know there also a subject '' Other people being strongly against you riding a motorcycle'' and what I read in this section is more about security. It would be helpful if you share some idea you use to persuade your parents, wife, husband, family etc.. About the amount of money you spend travelling
But my probleme is more about to convince my parent (I am 22, I still live with them, they helping me to pay for school, and I think that just before to finish my school is the right time to do such a big trip before having a steady job, serious girls friend or wife , kids etc .. ) It's difficult to explain them I plan to spend around 8000 to 10 000 $ to go down in south america, partly by the fact they have never traveled further than 2 days driving.
My budjet is realistic ?
thanks
FranK
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Frank, forget whether your Budget is realistic, your original Question was ' How do I convince Parents/ Friends etc?' Right?
Ask them. Did THEY earn the Money you are going to use on the trip? if not, they have no right to tell you how to spend it.
Ask them, Have in this time of your Adulthood ever regretted NOT doing something when they were younger? (Trust me NO Adult who is honest can say really truthfully answer this one no) Wait for the Embarrrased Silence....... then say " Well I dont want to regret NOT doing this" ( although if they have never travelled more than 2 days away from home you may have a problem with this question! When I lived in the UK I knew people who had never travelled more than 10 MILES away from where they were born....and boy were they narrow minded )
Failing That..... you ARE 22, you are Legally an Adult therefore Responsible for your own decisions. Let go of the apron strings Dude before its too late!
Go out and have that adventure! They will still be there when you come back, your their 'Kid' and they will worry about you, they obviously love you as they help you through school, they have to have some trust in you too.......
Best Wishes and Happy Adventuring!
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If your parents pay for your school and (I guess) for your food and provide you with a room, they DO have something to say about it. Even when you are 22 because you are living on their money. If you live on your own and earn your own money, nobeody should tell you what to do with it. (You may have guesssed I am a parent myself ;-) )
I think you have to convince them that it not a waste of money to travel.
If you are looking for a job, some experience with other countries and cultures can be an advantage as business is getting more global every day.
Also for your development as a person it is important. When traveling alone on your bike in South America, you don't have your parents to help you out when you are in trouble. You have to help yourself. That will develop your personality to be a more mature and sesponsible person. You will see that a lot of people are not as wealthy as you are and you will appreciate much more what you have and not take it for granted.
You will learn about other cultures, meet other people.
Show them that you take your preparation serious and won't do stupid things. It is normal that parents are worried about kids going on adventures but if you show them you know what you are doing, it will take some of their worries away.
If you make that clear, they may even sponsor your trip ;-)
Good luck !
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I'm not sure that I read your post correctly , but I think you said you wanted to travel before you finish school.
In my opinion that's not a good idea , finish your college or uni and THEN travel , you'll find your parents will understand much better .I think you will also enjoy your trip much more having put your studies behind you and have an enjoyable and relaxing trip , who knows there may be an opportnity to do some work , volounteer work or research whilst on your trip .
I've not travelled in S America , but those who have done it say a budget of $40 tp $50 should be lots .
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Finish school
As a parent (& of girls, so I know a lot about worrying!) I would advise you to finish school. You will have something to celebrate and the travel experience will help you face work much better. If they are totally against you could use the nuclear option; offer to repay the cost of your education when you get back and start work, as you would a stranger or bank. This is called emotional blackmail and must never be used lightly.
I don't think I am unique, but I cannot imagine my children doing anything that would make me turn my back on them (much that I may disapprove of, but never enough to turn them away); if you go travelling your parents will still be there for you when you get back. They may take the opportunity to tell you off like you're still seven years old, but they will forgive. It is what parents do. It's what we're for.
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My parents were never on board with me doing my trip. I have never been the type to wait around and try to convince them. I prepared everything for the trip and once they came to the realization that I was leaving they had a talk with me about safety and calling them.
I think it is good to have your parents on board, but only if they are the type of parents who can be convinced ahead of time.
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School first
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My parents were never on board with me doing my trip. I have never been the type to wait around and try to convince them.
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All people are different. I don't know your parents. Maybe in some cases you should just go but if you have a good relationship with your parents, it is much beter to convince them. Beside the emotional and moral issues, the advantage for you will also be that you'll have a solid home base to support you.
If one of my children would like to go on a RTW, I would say what MarkE and Dodger wrote, "first finish school and then go explore the world !"
Sure it is good to start this before you have a mortage, wife children etc. but if you do it before you finish school, you have a deadline on your trip because you have to be back in time for your next year at school again. If you finish school first, you can go as long as want.
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I disagree you should finish school first. I did a two year course, then took off on a 'sabbatical' for a year. Discovered that this then gave me credence to qualify for a school that would never have accepted me before. Schools/teachers LOVE it when students depart from the 'accepted' and normal program. It shows you've got gumption and individuality. You'll have a broader perspective than other students, and you'll fit in more with the teachers, though perhaps a bit less with your peers. In England for example, it's considered rather normal to take a 'gap' year between the equivilent of high school and college. Too bad that's not the case in the US.
Having said that, the fact you're living at home at 22 might somewhat negate how schools perceive you. ;-)
Enjoy your travels!
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What is this
Is this a this a travel advisory or security warning?
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Is this a this a travel advisory or security warning?
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I know....it's probably not the perfect place to place this thread....I place it ther just because it was a similar to the thread '' Other people being strongly against you riding a motorcycle'' who is also talking more on convincing yours relatives than on safety and security....but anyway, it's too late now.
Thanks for all your advice
but, I know what I am doing taking just a 6 moth off (I study in civil engineering and at the second a finish my school I got hundred of job wating for me, I don't want to say no to them and adding a additionnal background and the learning of a third language cant improve the possibility to have a better one).
But in my opinion this thread talk too much about my palticular situation, I am sure I am not the only one who have to convince others about the $$$$$ point. What your experience about this ....
Thanks again
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