For LAZ 1 and others...
I am with Tony Lee regarding appropriateness of post. Not only that I have some hard won advice for all who are seeking "pardners"..... I live in the southwest part of each two years..., so the spelling is correct:
What to look for in a woman who travels
1. Communication: is her rhythm of communication similar to yours?
People process (inflow and out flow communication) at different speeds,
perhaps the greatest cause of frustration and "divorce" is when two people
in an intimate realtionship have very different rhythms of communication.
Those who inflow and outflow slowly are no less intelligent or able than those
who process quickly, but select a mate with a rhythm of communication similar to yours. Life and your realtionship will be much more fun.
2. Agreements: verify a potential mate can make and KEEP agreements. We are all, well, mostly all good people, so if we make an agreement with a lover/partner and then break that agreement, we justify this afront by discovering or inventing her/his mistakes or short commings. This only to jutify the breaking of an agreeent.
3.Experience: the old ledgend that "opposites attract" is incomplete. It should read, "opposites attract divorce." Make sure she has similar experience levels to yours. Steve 974 describes a woman who travels like him and he is a happy man. If you have battled your way through to post graduate degrees, hooking up with a high school drop out, with very notable exceptions - like true genius - probably won't work. Because you are reading here, you ride or will be riding motorcycles, so select a woman who rides or wants to learn to ride - pillion or pilot. Steve 974 in previous post really shines a positive light on levels of experience.
4. Emotions: wanted or not, we all exhibit emotions, this is part of being human, we share an emotional facade hopefully appropriate for each situation. Anger, when appropriate, fear, when appropriate etc etc... but each of us has an emotion that we hang out in more often than all the others. Let's say you are pretty much
bored all the time, then select a woman who is also pretty much bored all the time and you two will see the world through the curtain of boredom. Or, better select a woman who is interested in everything, - this is a better emotion than boredom and she will help you out of your boredom. What not to do is - if you are chronically interested in life is to hook up with a woman who is chronically in grief over some past pain, etc. ect. ect.
True example: years ago when I lived in Flagstaff, Arizona, I went into the Museum Club bar commonly called the "Zoo Club" - I was very attracted to a barmaid who worked behind the bar. I sat at the bar next to an older cowboy, complete with cowboy hat, boots, western shirt and I suspected he was carrying.
Not long after, I heard the cowboy speaking to the barmaid in very anger tones, explaining how "pissed off" he was with his wife and at his boss and that his kids were worthless, at that moment a middle aged woman burst through the door and clobbered him in the cowboy hat with her purse. She knocked him off his barstool and grabbed him by the scruff of his neck and hauled him out the door.
I was shocked, but my favorite barmaid learned over the bar and said, "don't worry about it, that happens all the time - they have been married 25 years, have 4 kids and will never divorce - you see, they are both very angry people and they understand each other. It is the bad boys who marry the good girls that get divorced. And, the good boys who marry the bad girls get divorced. But I have never heard of a good boy who married a good girl or a bad boy who marries a bad girl getting divorced."
I was astounded by this simple wisdom shared at the "Zoo Club" bar in Flagstaff, Arizona.
5. Comparable magnitude: Each of us have a soul. We are endowed with a big soul or little soul the difference is simple. The big souls have the philosophy that they will survive and help other survive even if they have to drag them along the the way. The little souls see anyone else's survival as a threat to their survival and covertly or overtly try to destroy others, physically or psychologically.
The very obvious message here is if you have a big soul, don't travel with anyone who has a very little soul.
Oh, this is also, my, and others advice for woman selecting men to travel or hook up with on a more permanent basis.
Ride hard, ride free
xfiltrate
rosa del desierto and I are once again at our ranch in Flagstaff, stop by.
|