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Dating Women who Travel
I've just been sent this (by my ex-boyfriend!)
It certainly rings true for me in many respects and so I thought I'd share it and see what you think
Date a Girl Who Travels.
She’s the one who doesn’t think twice about hair straighteners and curling irons. She’s content with her waves and braids and she definitely doesn’t spend hours in front of a mirror. It’s one less thing to not think about when she’s not planning her next day. While others are getting ready for the night, she’s off seizing the day.
Date a girl who travels. She will introduce you to a new way to experience life. The weekend routine, the distraction from the everyday, will not be necessary. You will be constantly exposed to new fantasies and adventures.
You will not have to worry about impressing her with your car and corporate job, and you most certainly won’t have to shower her with jewelry from Tiffany’s. She values time over money and would rather have a story than a necklace.
Date a girl who travels because she will allow you to leave your comfort zone. She won’t allow you to be bored because she’s always finding the road less travelled.
Chances are, she doesn’t want the life her friends have. She’s a dreamer who is unafraid to make those dreams a reality. She’s a freelancer and you will quickly become a muse to her art. She will show you a side of yourself that you often run from. She will not just listen to you complain about your job; she will try to show you how to change it.
Date a girl who travels. She’s the one who is open about her mistakes for the story and who will appreciate your mistakes as well. She may not use her college degree, but she accepts knowledge from a peaceful and unique point of view. She is open-minded and trusts the world to take care of her and does not feel the need to become a slave to someone else’s dream. She is accepting of what life gives and recognizes when life leads her to a person worth loving.
Date a girl who travels because she knows how to relinquish control. She recognizes that dreams change and will change her plans for the chance to love. She is friends with herself and knows how to follow her heart. She recognizes the beauty of uncertainty, and will plunge headfirst into the world of the unknown without a second thought. She will give herself to a dream without hesitation.
Date a girl who travels because she knows how to be alone. She doesn’t need you to entertain her, and she’s confident in her choices. She trusts herself and she will not hold back in love when she feels that love is right.
Date a girl who travels because she is not afraid to be herself. She is respectful of others, but more importantly is respectful to herself. She will defend what she believes is right, and you will soon find yourself doing the same.
She will never need you; making the relationship you build one based on choice, not obligation. She is independent and she understands that there are some dreams you must chase alone.
She is constantly meeting new people and trusts you to do the same. She will nourish your dreams and will expect the same in return. She will never hold you back.
It came from here
https://medium.com/lets-get-a-coffee/b14a05920f6f
There is also one entitled "Don't Date a Girl who Travels" but it's not a negative one.
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There are some great words of wisdom here as well.
Lena Desmond: Date a Boy Who Travels
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Dating Men who Travel
That is amazing! I always feel that travelling on a bike puts women off
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I tend to encourage women to travel.
After a while being with me, they want to up and leave. As far away as possible.
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Rode some bikes.
Fix them for a living.
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Quote:
Originally Posted by *Touring Ted*
I tend to encourage women to travel.
After a while being with me, they want to up and leave. As far away as possible.
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hehehehe ... most of the guys I date make me want to travel. Alone
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I find it quite hard to meet men, when I tell them about my travels they sometimes seem overwhelmed..
The situation makes me somewhat picky.. if they are not into motorbikes or travel, then I don't seem to be interested.
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^^^ Ditto
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A lasso women from my bike..
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Men initially respond to my travel stuff by either being intimidated, naysaying or, 'Oh yes, I can match that!' Then after a few years they want the white picket fence. I have a theory about this but I'll save it for my film. ;-) Stay tuned... currently in Uganda.
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Fern
I find it quite hard to meet men, when I tell them about my travels they sometimes seem overwhelmed..
The situation makes me somewhat picky.. if they are not into motorbikes or travel, then I don't seem to be interested.
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SO true. Also, what Lorraine said, about men being either intimidated, disbelieving or trying to match you. I pretty much gave up by now
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I find ladies on bikes is very sexy, well my misses anyway, I've never dated a girl that traveled a lot on a bike, I did date a girl that loved traveling she ended up meeting someone else on her travels,,,just as well,,,,,as I meet my misses,,,
She loves the back of the bike not that keen to have her own bike,
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Lorraine's Fil
Hello U-gan-da !!!
Looking forward, very much, to your film. When, how can I find it? Title?
70 years old this year with no white picket fences or desire for same in sight or in dreams. rosa del desierto - much younger, and I will ride it out together... Currently riding Mexico, en route to Spain. C- yaaaaaa
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Sounds like my wife! Backpacked around India, north and south, and has been to places I've never heard of before... then I introduced her to bikes
Although it's a Honda ST1300 and a bit of a barge we've done our wandering around Europe for the past seven years. She loves being on the back, and I couldn't get her to take up another form of transport with a big stick!
Packs light, doesn't do make-up, and can be ready to go out in 10 minutes flat... my kind of girl.
There's nothing ever wrong with a girl who travels
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What to look for in a woman who travels
1. Communication: is her rhythm of communication similar to yours?
People process (inflow and out flow communication) at different speeds,
perhaps the greatest cause of frustration and "divorce" is when two people
in an intimate realtionship have very different rhythms of communication.
Those who inflow and outflow slowly are no less intelligent or able than those
who process quickly, but select a mate with a rhythm of communication similar to yours. Life and your realtionship will be much more fun.
2. Agreements: verify a potential mate can make and KEEP agreements. We are all, well, mostly all good people, so if we make an agreement with a lover/partner and then break that agreement, we justify this afront by discovering or inventing her/his mistakes or short commings. This only to jutify the breaking of an agreeent.
3.Experience: the old ledgend that "opposites attract" is incomplete. It should read, "opposites attract divorce." Make sure she has similar experience levels to yours. Steve 974 describes a woman who travels like him and he is a happy man. If you have battled your way through to post graduate degrees, hooking up with a high school drop out, with very notable exceptions - like true genius - probably won't work. Because you are reading here, you ride or will be riding motorcycles, so select a woman who rides or wants to learn to ride - pillion or pilot. Steve 974 in previous post really shines a positive light on levels of experience.
4. Emotions: wanted or not, we all exhibit emotions, this is part of being human, we share an emotional facade hopefully appropriate for each situation. Anger, when appropriate, fear, when appropriate etc etc... but each of us has an emotion that we hang out in more often than all the others. Let's say you are pretty much
bored all the time, then select a woman who is also pretty much bored all the time and you two will see the world through the curtain of boredom. Or, better select a woman who is interested in everything, - this is a better emotion than boredom and she will help you out of your boredom. What not to do is - if you are chronically interested in life is to hook up with a woman who is chronically in grief over some past pain, etc. ect. ect.
True example: years ago when I lived in Flagstaff, Arizona, I went into the Museum Club bar commonly called the "Zoo Club" - I was very attracted to a barmaid who worked behind the bar. I sat at the bar next to an older cowboy, complete with cowboy hat, boots, western shirt and I suspected he was carrying.
Not long after, I heard the cowboy speaking to the barmaid in very anger tones, explaining how "pissed off" he was with his wife and at his boss and that his kids were worthless, at that moment a middle aged woman burst through the door and clobbered him in the cowboy hat with her purse. She knocked him off his barstool and grabbed him by the scruff of his neck and hauled him out the door.
I was shocked, but my favorite barmaid learned over the bar and said, "don't worry about it, that happens all the time - they have been married 25 years, have 4 kids and will never divorce - you see, they are both very angry people and they understand each other. It is the bad boys who marry the good girls that get divorced. And, the good boys who marry the bad girls get divorced. But I have never heard of a good boy who married a good girl or a bad boy who marries a bad girl getting divorced."
I was astounded by this simple wisdom shared at the "Zoo Club" bar in Flagstaff, Arizona.
5. Comparable magnitude: Each of us have a soul. We are endowed with a big soul or little soul the difference is simple. The big souls have the philosophy that they will survive and help other survive even if they have to drag them along the the way. The little souls see anyone else's survival as a threat to their survival and covertly or overtly try to destroy others, physically or psychologically.
The very obvious message here is if you have a big soul, don't travel with anyone who has a very little soul.
Oh, this is also, my, and others advice for woman selecting men to travel or hook up with on a more permanent basis.
Ride hard, ride free
xfiltrate
rosa del desierto and I are once again at our ranch in Flagstaff, you'll stop by.
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SO true. Also, what Lorraine said, about men being either intimidated, disbelieving or trying to match you. I pretty much gave up by now
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mmmmm.... I am mid forties now, with child (8) and partner / wife (24 years) I am getting more adventurous and she is becoming less... especially when it comes to taking the little one. we all change at different times in our lives, at different rates and in different ways.....
Accommodating one anther amicably is an art form! I am still learning!
Don't give in !
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