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In a couple but alone
I just read a recent thread in here which talked about the problems of females making friends when travelling solo, and wondered about my own predicament which was the total opposite - problems getting noticed and making friends when riding with my boyfriend.
When we ride all the conversation, excitement, passion, questions, admiration and curiosity is aimed at him and I barely get a look in. In a recent trip of 14 months I had to deal with this time and time and time again, and it really dragged me down. I very nearly ended my trip. I effectively was being treated like the “little woman” and this was in 1st and 2nd world countries.
Has anyone else suffered with this? Any tips? The worse thing for me was that Gabriel and I set out not even as girlfriend and boyfriend at the beginning, each having planned and contributed to our trips equally, I was in India and he crossing Russia, independently. Then we came together, and for 10 months I was treated like the “other half” that “tagged along”. I remember almost shouting once about a bike part just so I could be proven worthy of listening to.
And yet when Gabriel and I would have our own independent explorations for the day I would get all kinds of attention.
I suppose I am not being especially helpful, but just trying to show that it happens in so many different ways.
I would ask that if anyone is kind enough to help out a couple of bikers try and remember that the lady might not be the girlfriend, and that she has a passion, history and stories all of her very own.
I would be really interested to hear if any other ladies have had similiar experiences.
Cheers
Char
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