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Question Life, regrets and happiness
On the subject of eye openers (top 5 regrets of the dying) I thought I'd start a discussion as it's just really interesting what different people value in life. I wanna know what you regret, what you live for and what keeps you sane (happy).

I'll start:

I regret: letting other people get me down and also obsessing over my looks. I remember going to the beach after new years and I was so worried about the sludge I accumulated around my tummy over christmas that I didn't enjoy the crystal clear water, blue sky and white sand . I just accept the body nature gave me and make the most of it while it's healthy.

I live for: Riding my motorcycle , my family and my partner and making a change in the world for the better.

What keeps me sane: I eat chocolate (and any yummy food) whenever I want because chocolate has anti depressant qualities and eating delicious food just makes me happy. Moderation is the key though, I can never over indulge, my body won't let me and for that I am grateful.

So that's me done, what about you guys?
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On the subject of eye openers (top 5 regrets of the dying) I thought I'd start a discussion as it's just really interesting what different people value in life. I wanna know what you regret, what you live for and what keeps you sane (happy).

I'll start:

I regret: letting other people get me down and also obsessing over my looks. I remember going to the beach after new years and I was so worried about the sludge I accumulated around my tummy over christmas that I didn't enjoy the crystal clear water, blue sky and white sand . I just accept the body nature gave me and make the most of it while it's healthy.

I live for: Riding my motorcycle , my family and my partner and making a change in the world for the better.

What keeps me sane: I eat chocolate (and any yummy food) whenever I want because chocolate has anti depressant qualities and eating delicious food just makes me happy. Moderation is the key though, I can never over indulge, my body won't let me and for that I am grateful.

So that's me done, what about you guys?
WRONG! I can only agree with Conan (that is good!).

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Ummm... I hope I did not sabotage your nice proposal with Conan's "what's best in life". I just had to say it, I love it.

Ok, if I have to synthesize everything, my final goal is happiness. Achieving it has to be done by acceptable means, so I wouldn’t be any happier having a nicer bike if I had to sell drugs to get it (honesty is sort of a requirement). And that extends to friends and family, so their happiness is a condition for mine, so I try my best if I can help them to be happier.

Regarding chocolate and considering that I live in Switzerland, as Oscar Wilde said, the only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it.

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For 40 + years I have jumped jobs looking for the one that I can do well and make 'enough' money to get 'stuff'. And enjoy it !!!!
I was lucky enough to find a wife that puts up with my failures, my dreams, my lack of a career, and usually lack of ready cash. We laugh a lot, and we argue often, after 32 yrs of marrage, we manage. (must be doing something right)
We have not managed the big house,fancy cars, and vacations, but one thing remains , I still desire this stuff/job/lifestyle, but would swap the lot to do the RTW trip with no agenda and no timetable and a reasonable budget. One thing is noticable in many reported trips, is where does the money come from?
Mrs always talks about giving up the house, what to come back to, not camping, seeing Europe first (£££££ouch).
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How many people can say they have lived their dream???????????????????

I have, from being very young, all I wanted was to be a soldier, but a soldier that did a bit more, a soldier with a different coloured beret and maybe some Para wings on his shoulder....I got to live that dream and loved every minute of it, served nearly a decade in British Commando Forces. The benefits of being in this type of unit is that you get to travel a lot, and to places so far off the tourist trail that you may as well be on another planet lol

So as for regrets from a young age....no I don't think I do, possibly the only thing that gets to me is the fact that I'm not as fit as I was, I wish I had kept my high level of fitness up, but with the busyness of normal life its difficult to maintain athlete levels!!

I'm now successful in my second career, and have just launched my own business which will help me to combine my passion for bikes and travel

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On the subject of eye openers (top 5 regrets of the dying) I thought I'd start a discussion as it's just really interesting what different people value in life. I wanna know what you regret, what you live for and what keeps you sane (happy).

I pretty much defy anyone to get to a reasonable age without having regrets. The road not traveled, the trips not taken, the life not lived - the longer you're on the planet the more of these pile up and the shorter time you have to consider doing anything about them. How much any of them affect you is going to depend on your personality type and your circumstances.

I'd guess most people develop a kind of low level "if only" unease as they age and opportunities close off or pass them by. How you deal with it is a interesting question. Chocolate is good but I know several people who have either written or are currently writing books as a means of justifying the choices they made. I tried counseling but eventually decided that chocolate was cheaper.
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Good post! I contemplated the same thing when I turned 45 recently. Part of that is here:

All things considered, I'd rather turn 45 than turn blue.

I still feel 26, I just notice more gray hairs (though I wish there were a lot more of them). And my jean sizes have incrementally increased with the years. No, I don't wear a size 44.

I'm sorer now after a long walk or a short run, or when I use muscles I hadn't used in a while.

I wear glasses to watch TV and ride my motorcycle at night. But I don't alert any of my friends or co-workers of that fact.

I'm satisfied where I find myself at this stage of my life. In seasons, this would be late Summer for me. And I'm content.

I'm a resounding success by no means; neither am I a dismal failure.

Unlike Ol' Blue Eyes, I have more than a few regrets; they're anchors I drag along constantly. I know I can't change things I've done, so I just live with the fact that my conscience will forever hound me like a deranged ex-lover.

In 45 years, I have more good memories than bad, and that's what gets me through the day.


Sometimes I've snapped photos of the great things I've experienced, but I have cherished memories of many other occasions where no camera was available (and maybe that's a good thing).

Folks who knew me at 15 wouldn't recognize me. I'm a completely different person than I was at 25 (and that may be a good thing). I've changed quite a bit since I was 35 and my personality continues to evolve. I plan to be a much better person at 55.

I'm happy to report that I'm in a good place at this point in my life. I am fortunate to be in love with my wonderful wife, who joins me in putting The Lord at the top of our list of priorities.

I have a semi-sane family that lives nearby, great health with some pretty good genes, a small circle of friends that I see often (but not often enough), two (count 'em TWO) ex-wives who don't hate me, a decent job, an open mind, a fairly bright outlook on life, a somewhat pleasant disposition (after morning coffee), and finally, I have true hope that the best just might be to come. Yes, good things are happening and I'm prepared to enjoy them.




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