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Originally Posted by Dirk Taalman
IMHO you have three options:
Option 1: YOU have decided to take the trip, YOU do it. You can do everything you want without having to worry about anybody else. Ultimate freedom. You´ll change during the trip, she´ll change during your absence, so if she still is in the picture when (and if) you come back, then is a good time to figure out if you guys should be together.
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I love the 3 answers you gave as options, but #1 is a huge bucket of wisdom! 
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She is willing to sell HER house, her car, her EVERYTHING. Leave her friends and family for this trip. She is unreal in every category and she complements me in so many ways. Could I ask for a better life partner, NO, hands down.
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WE began planning for OUR RTW trip but lately doubt has set in. (Here is where my ego, my selfishness, my MAN-ly a$$hole attributes comes in.) I would love to have her in any life in any form I am fortunate enough to be blessed with. BUT, I feel I want to RTW solo. Why I don’t really know
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I suppose the most important question is if you love her? If you do you really really need to think of what the most important things in LIFE are to you. Believe me girls like yours are not found in abundance in my experience.
Also, is it possible that the reason you want to travel on your own is because you feel you would be achieving something greater by doing it solo?
Do you know the WHY of your RTW trip? How would your gf going change that?
Also another good question I think is: Does she really want to go RTW or does she just not want to loose you? Because if its the latter, then I think you'd be right to be concerned about her going...
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girl opinion!
If I were your g/f and you tell me, after spending probably a very long time planning the trip etc.. that you are going without me, I would:
1- dump you
2- smash you bike
3- get my own bike
4- rent my house
5- leave for a RTW trip! Solo! Who need a man?!
In another words I would take it v. badly!
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Girls who want to do it are difficult to find????
What's all that fuzzing about girls who want to travel are difficult to find? Looking to my history, at least 2 out of 3 girls I've dated with would travel to where ever. And looking around me, there's a considerable portion of female friends that are exploring the globe for extended periods. I don't think that's an argument.
Thing is that none of us can read the future, and none of us knows the complete context. So none of us can give a decent advise, except then 'make up your own mind'.
There will be examples of men leavig a great girl and depart on a great adventure, and live an amazing life, there will be examples of men leaving a great girl and living a miserable life. And the same will be true for men not leaving there girl, some living an amazing life, for others it will be boring.
So if you make up your mind, let us know, and, if it'll cause grief, try to keep the damage limited (which might cause more grief at your side). And further, try to be satisfied with your life when you die.
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You've got to be kidding. I've met about three in my entire life who weren't already taken.
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Go on the RTW. I planned for years and finally (skin cancer etc. postponed the trip) 5 years later I am out of here. Go. With or without her, but go.
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If the girl is so perfect then my vote is... take her with you.
Part of being a pair is that you have to make adjustments to your goals and dreams in order to stay together. Obviously people shouldn't force each other to give up their dreams, but some adjustments are required. She has adjusted hers by offering to go with you. The adjustment you need to make is a lot smaller than the one she has already made.
You'll have a great adventure either way. Go with the flow. Why force it? The flow right now is, you gotta girl who wants to go RTW with you. Role with it. Enjoy the experience you are having instead of wishing for a different one.
If you go with her, what are you going to loose anyway, some lonesome traveler ideology? What might you loose if you decide to go alone... the perfect girl!
If you are having so much trouble deciding this, then that indecisiveness is probably not going to go away. So the obvious thing to do once again is take her with you and just see how it works out. You might find that it's great travelling together, or you might find that she doesn't seem so perfect as a travelling companion.
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Don't pass on never again opportunities
Worst come to worst, your two person solo goes wrong. So waht, you can always plan another solo RTW trip. Meeting that type of girl.... hmmm... chances are its a once in a life time opportunity. Pass on this one and live remorse. Do it and fail, you only get regret. Other scenario... the trip of a lifetime that will have you build something new on a daily basis. Isn't the goal of the RTW to live life fully, adjust to the world's surroundings. In other words, shouldn't you be flexible and ready for anything to start off with?
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Go..Go..Go..!!
My suggestion... Take her with you. You will either have a great time together and get to know each other better than you would in the "Normal" day to day grind of what we non travellers (soon to be out of this group... RTW starting 01-01-2009) call life. OR.... you will get to know each other and decide to go your own ways... Not giving it the chance, I think could be your biggest mistake.
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So why do I keep meeting the 'wrong' men who just want a beach holiday???
I go solo or team up with a married Italian friend - his wife doesn't have a problem with it which amazes me (we are purely travel partners!!!)
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Go for it
Yes go on do the RTW solo...but you will end up doing the rest of your life solo. What is the point in doing it by yourself??? I would want someone to share the experience with.....Dont be a PLONKEr as DEl would say...
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No problem
I was reading your post and I think that the problem is very easy to solve. If she didn't want to come with you you will need to make a choice but now the thrue is do you want to be with her or not , I travel arround the world on motorcycle alone most of the time but if my wife say she wants to come and the trip is possible 2 up I am always happy to have her with me, your dilemma is either you don't really love your partner and can't be honest with yourself and with her or you are looking for some dramma in your life. On the road the adventure will be there anyway , by yourself or with someone , sharing your dream with someone you love is really a gift .
Only my opinion.
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great advice.........
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Originally Posted by MoroCycler
Just do what your heart tells you.
If you take her with you, maybe you will break apart soon, if you leave her maybe this could be your own selfproof that you deeply love her after you come back.
Or, you could even lose a precious partner forever.
If she is still there when you´re back, she´s the one, boy!
If she is not, then nothing was lost.
It is just the infinite world of possibilities opening in front of you, congratulations. Anyway, just do it!
Check the voice of the heart, not the brain.
If you think you can or if you think you can´t, you will allways be right.
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Woman...here!!! Great advice Humberto, as a woman I second that! By the way did I mention I am available for a RTW trip, having just returned from Nicaragua for the third time solo.......I'm sick of solo!!!
You are not going crazy, you are just starting tu build a life upon your own choices. 
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Woman...here!!! Great advice Humberto, as a woman I second that! By the way did I mention I am available for a RTW trip, having just returned from Nicaragua for the third time solo.......I'm sick of solo!!!
You are not going crazy, you are just starting tu
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Making Memories
okay. this thread has more activity than most any other. Why? Think about it.
I´ve been 11 mos. and 60,000km on the road alone. I can´t tell you how many times I´ve had an experience, gazed at a vista or tasted life so exquisite and enrichening that I´ve had to say, damn... I really wish I was sharing this with my babe...
I´ve got a notebook full of places that I´ve promised to try to return with her with bike or sans bike. If she came with me I´d be saving a lot of time, money and energy with these notes and the future trips I´m going to have to take with her!
Traveling alone is incredible. But traveling with a partner and not just a buddy who wants to talk about the benefits of full injection or Scott Oilers is precious. You´ve got the option... and the choice. Do it...
as my friend Roger once said, give any one man too much rope and he´ll **** it up...
don´t mess with this one my friend. enjoy life and make the memories and share the experience...
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yes you are a f*****g idiot.
the answer to your question.
sounds like a terific woman.you don't deserve her. 
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